Throwing everything? and finally, orthotics are in

Well, mommy is likely weary from wiping snotty noses and not getting any sleep, but this week the girls behaviors are driving me batty. Kara is still fighting her cold, likely turning into a sinus infection. Both girls are blowing greenish snots, but that does not always mean infection. They do not have the "A mouse died in my sinuses" smell. (That is my description, LOL)

Kara is 90% self-feeding; I say 90 because she sometimes refuses to feed herself and sits at the table and cries. The worse part of this though is her throwing her bowls full of food across the room, splattering yogurt and mashed potatoes, or anything she is eating, all over the kitchen, often into the family room. I spent the morning with a hot pail of water and a rag, cleaning it up from the underside of the kitchen table, off of the floor, and re-washing a load of laundry which I stupidly left sitting next to the table.

I think that Kara is upset that I feed Amanda and she has to feed herself, so for a couple of weeks I fed her breakfast while I fed Amanda, it was hard for Amanda because I was making her wait and she gets really upset and shakes. (this is a weird thing she does, she also has facial tics if she gets upset) If I feed Amanda her spoonful, Kara whines. None of us is happy when we are done...

Therefore, the last few days I have sat Kara down in her booster seat, it has a try, while I feed Amanda, who sits on a stool (this makes her sit straight instead of hunching over as she does in the booster seat). We do not have room for two large highchairs. We have a pretty small home. OK, so I guess I need to get to my point, having a cold and not having enough sleep makes me ramble. If Kara sits right next to Amanda and I, while I feed Amanda, she will feed herself, and minimal things are thrown across the room. She threw her empty juice box today. I can't seem to get her to stop throwing things, she throws remotes, toys, clothing, food, and anything sitting on a table. Yesterday I took her off of her seat and she missed eating most of her breakfast, she did the same thing at lunch, I pureed her chicken soup and she tossed it, and of course it landed face-down on the floor, so again, she did not eat most of her lunch, and she went to bed for her nap. She was starving for dinner, and ate that happily, but it was finger food, a grilled cheese and then an applesauce. She threw the applesauce down before she was done with it.

After she throws things, she celebrates, throwing her hands up in the air and laughing her head off. She knocks things like laptops on the floor, throws her leg in the air, and giggles. Obviously, we do not think it is funny. She has had time outs, she has had her hand tapped and been verbally scolded, she even got a swat on her rump when she shoved Amanda off the couch; Amanda hit her head on the table, Kara laughed about that too.

I thought, well sure, she does not think objects or other people matter. Though she loves being cuddled and sits next to us when we sit down on the sofa. She also sits behind us and cuddles against our backs, a strange thing for her to do, it puzzles us. We know she never owned toys of her own, and she does not realize she can break things or hurt people. So does she love negative attention?It sure seems like that is the case, we do not want to perpetuate that. She does cherish three toys; her Christmas bear, the bunny we took to Ukraine for her and also the travel pillow I took to Ukraine. She happily goes to sleep if she has those three things.

I would love to hear what other adoptive parents have done about behaviors like this, I am a mom to eight children, but none of my bio children ever did this after infancy.

We pick up Kara's orthotics Friday, I hope they fit, it took over a month to get them.